After the affair has been discovered the question would be can the marriage now be saved? Your wedding vows were probably “for better or worse” now when faced with worse what do you do? This is a pretty frustrating situation to be in.
Men and women take different views on cheating spouses. Women could have more concern about the feelings the husband had for the other woman concerned. Finding out her husband is in love with another woman can be many times harder for the wife to handle. For men, just finding out their wife was even touched by another man could be enough to make him crazy.
After an affair has happened there would be no way to save the marriage until the affair is completely cut off. The one at fault here would be the one that did the cheating. The one that was cheated on should never feel like they are at fault or the one that made their spouse do this.
It is a fact a marriages can be saved after an affair but both of the couple must be willing to do what it takes to succeed. You must get to the root of the problem so both of you know what happened and why. And importantly the cheating spouse owning up to their mistake.
The only way to get through these rough times is to be respectful, no fighting and no arguing. The spouse that was cheated on should be respectful of their spouse but do not let them off the hook! When having discussions be calm if at all possible, further outbursts of anger will not help at all.
Having said all of that, it is obvious the victim will be full of anger and possibly the feeling of revenge. It would be best to get it out of your system as fast as possible so you do not hold it in for too long. If the two of you are going to reconcile and save the marriage work together the best you can toward that goal.
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