4 Reasons Someone Might Cheat On Their Spouse

Infidelity in marriages happens and it can be a very stressful time for not only the person that was cheated on but the one that did the cheating when they realize what their actions have done. Many couples consider their marriage over after an affair happens but when they take the time and calm down and think it over; they realize that they may be able to save it.

At least making the effort to save the marriage is a good step if both of the couple agrees on it. It would be difficult for only one to try to save things with no cooperation from the other. Having said all of that, why did your marriage suffer from an affair? Was it the husband or the wife that got caught cheating?

Infidelity in marriages is believed to take place in about one third of marriages. The reasons for someone cheating on their spouse can happen for many reasons, usually depending on a particular couple’s situation. Below you will find four reasons out of many that someone might cheat on their spouse.

1. Sometimes a person may only want to get revenge on their spouse for some reason. They could use having an affair as a means of achieving their goal. What if you found out that your spouse was cheating on you. Would you cheat on them to get even? This behavior does happen in marriages and the end results are not good. It is almost impossible to fix a marriage after this type of revenge so the marriage is probably over.

2. Sometimes after getting married a person may realize that married life is not for them. They are not ready for the commitment and miss the freedom they had when they were single. When they have an affair they feel like they are in control of their life and this takes care of the restlessness they may feel.

3. There are some that are just risk takers or thrill seekers. They will have an affair just to satisfy the need for taking a chance with something and getting away with it. Having an affair is not the main issue with them, it’s the act of doing something risky and not getting caught that is important.

4. Lastly is the stress of one’s life. Daily stress can catch up to you and some will turn to having an affair to help relieve this stress. One way to avoid this issue is for a couple to pay attention to each others needs and emotions. Communication is very important to the success of all marriages, take the time to talk to and know your spouse so you can help them when they are having low points in their lives.

Do You Love Your Spouse - Why Have An Affair

We try hard to make our relationships work but they can be unpredictable at times. We do not have the ability to read our partners mind or understand what their true feelings may be. This can leave us trying our best to get along together the best we can.

Because of that we must learn to pay more attention to how we interact together. You must put in the time and be dedicated to make your relationship work. Understanding them and getting to know them is one of the important aspects of a relationship. But what do you do as time goes by and you find you are not as interested in your partner as you thought you would be.

You may find they do not meet your needs and wants like you had hoped. By the time you realize this you may have been in your marriage for some time. You may still be in love with them and do not want to hurt them but unfortunately this is where an affair can happen.

You want your partner but there is more you desire so you find yourself looking for someone else that might meet your needs. You do not want to hurt your spouse but the urge for something more becomes more powerful. Regardless of your thoughts, you are still causing harm to your spouse and your marriage.

Your inability to control your urge to wander will leave your partner with emotional pain caused by your betrayal. Having control is the key. Decide if you truly love your spouse, if the answer is yes you must learn to control those urges.

If you decide you are not in love with your spouse like you once were, staying with them out of guilt may not be good. In the long run staying with them may be a mistake because a person could hang on to their marriage and have a secret relationship on the side.

This itself will cause more pain by having this affair than coming right out and ending the relationship. Being honest and respectful are important attributes of a good relationship and when you have an affair behind some ones back you have violated these.

If you have decided that you are no longer in love with your spouse anymore be honest with them and end the relationship if that is what is decided. It’s unfortunate that a relationship or marriage may come to an end but that may be best instead of prolonging the inevitable.

When you are in an affair it is the most harmful thing that will destroy a marriage. If you still love your spouse an affair would be the wrong choice to make. Make the right decisions and respect your partner and give your marriage a chance.

 

Are You a Victim of a Cheating Husband

If you are a woman that is the victim of a cheating husband, you may find yourself trying to make comparisons to the “other” woman. This can be normal so do not think doing it is wrong. You could be running it through your mind constantly comparing yourself to her, wondering if she is better looking than you and so forth. The bad news about this is you will drive yourself crazy with all the negative thinking and this will make being able to survive your husbands affair more difficult.

You already have a lot of uncertainty about your situation and these negative thoughts are adding fuel to the fire. Having some self doubt about yourself would be normal under there circumstances, but unfortunately will put you in a precarious position as you start to make judgment calls and give out punishment to your husband and the other woman.

You now have to deal with the loss of trust in your marriage after the affair was discovered. For whatever reasons your husband has chosen to go outside your marriage and this ruined not only your self-esteem but how you think you appear to your peers. Everything you took for granted is now questioned by you because you now have a lack of trust.

What you can do to get back your self-esteem is put the other woman at a level below you. This should be easy for you because she did the cheating with your husband, how could she be above you? You must think this way and take control of your emotional life. You can make up your own image of what she looks like. Make her the worst looking woman you want her to be.

Now put yourself above her in every respect and make a list of all the outstanding qualities that you possess. Put these on paper so you can keep referring back to them to boost your moral and remind yourself of whom you are. This way you are reinforcing your self-esteem.

 

Having experienced an affair in a relationship is a big deal, there is no denying this. But before you make any irrational decisions you owe it to yourself to take time to compose yourself so you make the right choices. It’s easy to pack up and leave right away or kick your husband out of the house, but that is not always the best thing to do.