At least making the effort to save the marriage is a good step if both of the couple agrees on it. It would be difficult for only one to try to save things with no cooperation from the other. Having said all of that, why did your marriage suffer from an affair? Was it the husband or the wife that got caught cheating?
Infidelity in marriages is believed to take place in about one third of marriages. The reasons for someone cheating on their spouse can happen for many reasons, usually depending on a particular couple’s situation. Below you will find four reasons out of many that someone might cheat on their spouse.
1. Sometimes a person may only want to get revenge on their spouse for some reason. They could use having an affair as a means of achieving their goal. What if you found out that your spouse was cheating on you. Would you cheat on them to get even? This behavior does happen in marriages and the end results are not good. It is almost impossible to fix a marriage after this type of revenge so the marriage is probably over.
2. Sometimes after getting married a person may realize that married life is not for them. They are not ready for the commitment and miss the freedom they had when they were single. When they have an affair they feel like they are in control of their life and this takes care of the restlessness they may feel.
3. There are some that are just risk takers or thrill seekers. They will have an affair just to satisfy the need for taking a chance with something and getting away with it. Having an affair is not the main issue with them, it’s the act of doing something risky and not getting caught that is important.
4. Lastly is the stress of one’s life. Daily stress can catch up to you and some will turn to having an affair to help relieve this stress. One way to avoid this issue is for a couple to pay attention to each others needs and emotions. Communication is very important to the success of all marriages, take the time to talk to and know your spouse so you can help them when they are having low points in their lives.