Because of that we must
learn to pay more attention to how we interact together. You must put in the
time and be dedicated to make your relationship work. Understanding them and
getting to know them is one of the important aspects of a relationship. But
what do you do as time goes by and you find you are not as interested in your
partner as you thought you would be.
You may find they do not
meet your needs and wants like you had hoped. By the time you realize this you
may have been in your marriage for some time. You may still be in love with
them and do not want to hurt them but unfortunately this is where an affair can
happen.
You want your partner
but there is more you desire so you find yourself looking for someone else that
might meet your needs. You do not want to hurt your spouse but the urge for
something more becomes more powerful. Regardless of your thoughts, you are
still causing harm to your spouse and your marriage.
Your inability to
control your urge to wander will leave your partner with emotional pain caused
by your betrayal. Having control is the key. Decide if you truly love your
spouse, if the answer is yes you must learn to control those urges.
If you decide you are not
in love with your spouse like you once were, staying with them out of guilt may
not be good. In the long run staying with them may be a mistake because a
person could hang on to their marriage and have a secret relationship on the
side.
This itself will cause
more pain by having this affair than coming right out and ending the
relationship. Being honest and respectful are important attributes of a good
relationship and when you have an affair behind some ones back you have
violated these.
If you have decided that
you are no longer in love with your spouse anymore be honest with them and end
the relationship if that is what is decided. It’s unfortunate that a
relationship or marriage may come to an end but that may be best instead of
prolonging the inevitable.
When you are in an
affair it is the most harmful thing that will destroy a marriage. If you still
love your spouse an affair would be the wrong choice to make. Make the right
decisions and respect your partner and give your marriage a chance.